Ten Tips on Preparing Successful Personal Profile for Men
Posted By Desmond Ray on July 5, 2009
Attract her attention. Yes, there must be something that should make your profile outstanding, comparing to “male, Aquarius, looking for an attractive..” boring stereotypes. It is your, great and unique personality presented here, so you better make it special.
Details are important However, it is a bit different case with your personal profile. Indeed, your task is to intrigue her, so if she would like to know how badly are you addicted to caffeine or what you can see from the windows of your office, you will have a chance to tell her later. Your personal description must be brief and to the point: list only the main features of your character and what you are looking for in another person.
Only You! When it comes to description of your match, writing in a third person is a bad idea. I will give you an example. “I am looking for someone special, who appreciates order in her life, but when some disorder happens, she takes it easy with a good sense of humor. If she is caught under warm summer rain, she just laughs and enjoys the opportunity to get a little wet.” Or, lets say instead “You are special and I am looking for you! You appreciate order in your life, but when you are caught in a warm summer rain you just laugh and enjoy an opportunity to get little wet. If I have got this right about you, please, let me know, I want to hear from you!” You are writing about a person you have never met, and still she will feel that this is about her. In a first example, even if this is about her and she will read it, she still may not feel that way, because it is written in a third person, about some other girl. As a result you may never hear from her. Considering that you have worked hard on your profile and manage to express an essence of your perfect match, you dont want this to happen.
Make her smile. You are not writing this profile for job promotion, so any joke, humor, trick will do you only good. If you have a good sense of humor, make sure that she would know about it from the start.
Mystery. Never forget that you are writing to a woman. Some element of mystery and intrigue will stir certain emotional mechanisms of her soul. Leave a part of your story untold, give her an opportunity to fill the blanks with her own imagination and feelings. Perhaps she will ask you some questions, and most certainly she will find you interesting. Remember: the purpose of your profile is to start a dialogue!
Be careful in your exclusion list. You should not be offering your friendship to anybody, but being too picky may hurt your chances of finding a good match. Of course, the majority of men want to exclude from their dating list everyone who is ugly, mean or stupid, but, be careful when you are setting these limits: keep in mind that 80% of women (including super-attractive ones) are displeased with their own constitution, appearance and intellect. Besides, ultra discreetness may repel a good match because she may think that you are seeking a model under influence of some inferiority complex (not good for you). Since turn-offs are often listed in the heading of your profile, if disappointed, she may not even look into anything else about you.
Your grammar. Yes, grammar is important. Correctly written text is usually taken as granted, text with grammar flaws will be noticed. You can write that you are lost and lonely in your Beverly Hills house, and you need someone to help you to fill at least half of its 8 bedrooms with kids and pets. If you will make a couple mistakes in your profile, your maturity and sincerity will be doubted, even if in reality you are mature and sincere person.
Restrain from any physical bravado. Unless you are seeking a brief date for tonight, you better keep any physical notions off your profile. Even if one can make it ten times over night, one should not hurry to tell this to the world, it just sounds silly.
Truth, truth and nothing but the truth. Lie will be revealed sooner or later. Why should you tarnish possibly great relationship with a lie? Be honest with your profile and with the choice of your photos.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck.
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