Approach Anxiety - The Fear Of Making The First Move

Perhaps the most common issue men face when dating is approach anxiety. This is the fear of making the first move with a woman you find attractive. It usually goes something like this:

You are in some sort of social setting, you could be in a bar, you could be walking your dog, you could even be on a bus, it doesn't matter. What does matter is that you have just seen a gorgeous woman you you'd love to get to know better. If you are like 98% of blokes out there, variations of the following thoughts will go though your mind:

  • She's hot
  • How will I go about meeting her?
  • I should go up and say something
  • What will I say?
  • I hope I don't make a fool of myself, she'll hate me
  • She won't be interested in me anyway

 

You've probably been checking her out while you've been thinking these thoughts and she's probably noticed. So she's possibly starting to feel a bit freaked out about you, wondering why you are staring at her. From here, 1 of the following 2 things will probably happen.

 

1. The moment passes. She either leaves, you talk yourself out of trying, or some other man beats you to it. Either way, you missed the opportunity to meet and talk to a beautiful woman, one who may have been looking for someone like you.

 

2. You generate the courage to talk to her, but a combination of your nerves and her being a little bit freaked out by your process, results in a pretty short and uncomfortable exchange of pleasantries, after which she leaves, never to be seen again.

 

The problem with this is that either of the 2 situations above will confirm in your mind, that perhaps you are not meant to meet these beautiful women. As such, you will build this belief in yourself and the next time you are presented with a similar opportunity, the same thing will happen. It becomes a self perpetuating cycle.

 

This means you will never properly meet the women you are attracted to, so you never get the opportunity to date these women. This is bad and it is wrong. How can you date successfully if you do not give yourself the opportunity to be with the women you are attracted to? You need to condition your mind out of this cycle. But where do you start?

 

The good news is that there is a method of breaking these, and other, bad dating habits. In fact, there is practically a science to it. The guys at the Love Systems have written a book called Magic Bullets, which details intricately, the science and art of attracting women, from approaching them all the way through to ensuring you get the type of relationship you want.

 

The book these guys have written is particularly good as it looks at your nature and applies techniques which will lift you out of your lethargy. However it also looks at the nature of women and ensures your actions generate positive results for the women you are meeting, and therefore a positive re-action from them, to you.

 

If you have approach anxiety and therefore have trouble meeting women, we strongly recommend you get yourself a copy of the Magic Bullets book. It has over 202 pages of dating wisdom between its covers, more than 50 of which will ensure you never doubt yourself again when meeting women.

 

 

 

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